Many parents feel helpless in the face of the great threat called: homework. As their children grow up, parents become helpless in the face of math exercises they have long been unable to remember how to solve, questions in history, geography and language. Add to the big threat the feeling of helplessness of the parents from the Corona period: lessons not learned, amounts of information, tools and skills not acquired, knowledge gaps that have opened up.

Children are given homework that aims to develop an "independent learner." In practice what happens is far from learning, and even further away from independence.

So what can we do to help our children?

1. Make sure it is really help
What does our child really ask for when he asks for help? Listen carefully to his request, not to what you think he needs. More than once we parents are asked to extend a finger, and we volunteer to give our all.

2. Allow yourself to trust them it
does not always seem, and they do not always give us a feeling that they can be trusted. Still, if we do not allow ourselves to get up from the "chair of responsibility" and leave it empty at times, our child will not volunteer to sit on it of his own free will.